Luck By Chance

A young lady commented few weeks ago that i get tensed very easily. I did not know how to react with that comment. I knew this.....but I did not expect this comment from a much younger lady (who appeared to be much wiser than me) . But at that moment as a first step thought not to get tensed with the comment. Next day onwards I started working towards it by practicing being cool, surfing lot of materials on how to reduce my anger and tension. I realized that "anger is my enemy" and can cause harm to me eg.
- When I get angry I become blank and cannot properly construct my sentences and I am unable to find any word. I loose the battle before I start fighting, being in right path which is definitely not good for me.

- I used to get bothered about every little thing and remain tensed for the whole night and day. I was the one who used to suffer the most with all the muddled up thoughts. But I have understood that certain things are really not worth thinking much and I also realized that if I am constantly worried then I am deliberately neglecting duty towards myself.

I have taken the following steps -

- Certain things are best left with God :-)

- Stop brooding, stop being grumpy, entertain myself that will help me get a cheerful and pleasing personality.

- If I control my thoughts only I will be earning respect as people trust only those who trust themselves.

- I try to divert my thinking to a positive direction like seeking knowledge, grooming self, playing games, singing, cooking etc. I am also thinking to start reading good books that cheer me up. Grooming gives lot of self confidence and good feelings. This is because of the fact that you suddenly discover a "new me". Jo once said we should pamper ourselves some times. Playing games relaxes mind as my mind enjoys for those moments. It also helps to bond with others which helps in the long run. Singing gives great spiritual satisfaction with a question in my mind "what am I doing in S/w industry?"

I knew all these dint I? Then what was it that was stopping me? Was I waiting for a comment which was casually passed? I answered myself - in order to succeed in life one needs to take step towards it (Courtesy - Luck by Chance). For me that comment did the magic